You can spot a confident person a mile away just by observing:

• the way he walks
• from his posture to the way he holds his head high to possibly that alluring smile on his lips.

Confident people are attractive not only physically but more so by the way they carry themselves, how they talk to people, how they listen, and the gestures they use to emphasize a point or show acquiescence.

You may have also observed that no matter how a person looks like on the outside, if he is self-confident, he can get the prettiest and smartest girl without even trying.  There is just something magnetic about people who are poised, collected and self-assured.  However, there is a huge difference between an overbearing, overconfident person and one who’s well-mannered, assured to a certain degree and enjoyable altogether.

I’m not good enough

We all have a self-sabotaging tendency once in awhile, especially when things didn’t go as planned or you’re going through something heart-wrenching like a break-up.  Unfortunately, most people have an overload of this self-sabotaging tendency to the point of, well, sabotaging everything that could possibly make him or her happy.

How many promising opportunities have been handed to you on a silver platter only to turn them away because you feel you’re not good enough?  It doesn’t matter if the opportunity was a promotion at work or a date with someone you’ve secretly admired for so long.  You just know you don’t deserve that kind of break because other people are better than you.

Guess what?  Other people ARE better than you, and you should be grateful.  If all of us are the same, where’s the joy in that?  It’s all in the name of healthy competition this survival mode is, and sometimes, good guys deserve a break even if they’re not the best in the bunch.  Besides, you are definitely better at something, too, so focus on that when you feel like being mean to yourself.

If you think that confident people are truly confident about themselves all the time, you are gravely mistaken.  Everyone has fears, some weirder than yours even.  They just don’t show it to everybody.  It’s not that you’re being dishonest when you hide your fears; they’re just a private part of you that not everyone should see.

Don’t worry that you will never be as confident as the next guy because you can be if you just learn how to focus on yourself first rather than what everybody else could be thinking about you – they’re probably not even thinking about the things you claim they do.

More than Good Enough

1. The greatest love of all loves you.  This is true, and I don’t mean it in a pompous kind of way where everyone is wrong and you’re right all the time.  Genuinely loving yourself no matter how you look like, whatever the color of your skin, and whatever race and culture is the biggest step you have to learn if you want to build your confidence.
2. Count your blessings not your crosses.  One way to put yourself down is by getting jealous over other people’s lifestyles or spouses or their abundance in money and your lack of it.  You have something, too, that other people envy.  You just don’t know it, so really, it’s just a matter of perspective.
3. Adopt changes in your life.  Sometimes, you need a little push to steer you in the right direction, and it could be a change in your appearance, wardrobe, jobs, apartment, or a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Best of all, be happy no matter what.  It’s a tall order, I know, but it’s going to change the way you look at yourself and your life.

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